lists - good or bad?

i was talking to my friend from high school, who I connected with via facebook (of course) and we were talking about dating in our 40's.  he's single (divorced) with two kids.  he is a hands-on dad and adores the ground his kids walk on - a good thing.  but he is facing the dating dilemmas and all the drama that goes with it.  i asked him "what are you looking for in a woman?" and slowly throughout the day he text me his list.  mind you some are serious, most made me laugh - here ya go!

• non smoker - cool!
• a bit crazy - meaning fun and silly
• good teeth - he said good teeth are an indication of other things
• no "wacky" religion - 'nuff said
• any political affiliation - he's a conservative
• must speak english - can also speak other languages
• no public display of cheap sweat pants - i laughed and laughed
• she needs to be close to his age - what?  no 20 somethings?
• she needs to like all kinds of music
• can't complain about the weather - pick a season
• does not need to know how to cook - that's a good one
• must like breakfast
• no bleach blondes
• not a "current" drug addict - rehab is okay
• she must close the door when going to the bathroom except to brush her hair or teeth - lol
• must have one fetish - hmmmm, revealing
• must like spicy food
• can't wear too much makeup
• cannot be a porn star - either domestic or international (what is THAT all about?)
• no gang tattoos but other types are okay
• no more than one harry potter book in personal library
• must like brownies (with nuts)
• must have a favorite beer

all of this got me thinking. if women have a list, why can't men?  i guess we always figure they have to meet up to our expectations but it seems they have their own as well.

so, what is on your list?

Update on Monday, September 7, 2009 at 4:21PM by Lori Luna

my friend said he wanted to see my list, i simply said, "i don't have one".  he said, "everyone has one", i said, "nope".  he followed up <nag nag nag> "why not" and i said, without thinking, "men hurt".

that was a mouthful!

Comments

[Shan]

And who is this guy friend that you speak of? He sounds promising and realistic. As a single mom (divorced) with three children of my own I can understand where he is coming from. His list would be very similar to my own if I put it out there; lol! :) I think we all need to be realistic in our expectations of what we are looking for. There is no Mr. Perfect (Sorry Ladies) nor is there a Ms. Perfect either (Sorry Guys) we are who we are the good, the bad and sometimes the ugly. We need to be realistic of who we are and we can't expect someone else to be perfect if we aren't.